So I have been an active Facebook user since 2006 and by active I mean ACTIVE. I check it numerous times a day, updating my status and creeping others pictures. It’s immature at best and pathetic at worst I am sure, but I have friends on there that I don’t normally get to see or communicate with either because of distance or because of our busy lifestyles.
When I was with my ex, he and his friends would trash Facebook and my activity on it. They didn’t like that I posted my pics of them on it and that I posted my personal information on the site when at times this info included them. After enough trash talking, I removed many of my pics and deleted friends I hadn’t talked to even though I wanted to be able to have contact with them. I love the odd comments and seeing how they are doing. Now yes, there were people I deleted that I did not want to communicate with, people who I didn’t like let alone respect or care for. But I removed about 20-30 people I did.
I decided last night to go back into Facebook and re-add those people and I am grateful most of them have accepted me back as friends. Now this isn’t just because my new boyfriend R is on Facebook and has no problem with announcing our relationship status or what we are doing, but because I have changed a lot in the last few months and part of this has been an increase in my self confidence, self-respect and huge desire to never let someone influence my choices again.
I love being social and having friends and keeping in touch with people so why did I delete these people? Because other people made me feel like I should?? How lame. I would freak if my daughter ever let a boy (or girl) influence them to do something they didn’t want to do so why do I accept less from myself?
I don’t – not now at least…and I am so grateful to have a boyfriend who accepts me as I am and to have Facebook friends that have accepted me back. You all are great and I look forward to hearing from each and everyone of you.