The free dictionary describes a compromise as:
1. To arrive at a settlement by making concessions.
This one sounds pretty good. Two parties (or more) arrive at a decision by each one giving and taking a little. They give on the things that aren’t so important to them and they take on the things that are of most importance. When two people are in a relationship – any relationship (family, friend, work, or boy/girlfriend) it is a given that compromising will become a part of your life. Your partner is not going to have every quality that you have. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses they possess and everyone has something that is a deal breaker.
When you are in a romantic relationship with someone, it is these deal breakers that make – or break – that relationship. With my ex there were numerous compromises on both our parts that had to be made. I realize now that there just ended up being to many – along with numerous other issues. Our respective issues were deal breakers.
However with the relationship I am in now with Richard, there haven’t been to many compromises made (at least that I can see). He has to realize I love my sleep and my girlfriends almost equally and I need time for both. However I try to ensure that he gets time with me and me alone so that he does not feel jilted in any way. I have to understand that there are many cultural differences between us and some of these things I need to compromise on, but none of it feels like a sacrifice (at least not yet).
This brings me to the Free Dictionaries second definition: