…is who you will spend the rest of the year with. Well in this case, for me, it was true.
I spent New Years Eve 2011 with two of my very best girlfriends N and K. I wasn’t in the mood to celebrate a year that ensured I would not be with the ex. However spending the night by myself seemed depressing and pathetic so me and my girls went over to a house party. It was a great night, I remember most of it (napping with Kristi after throwing up wine was actually a key highlight) and am grateful that once again, my girls were there for me.
I have spent the majority of 2011 hanging out with girlfriends and developing my friendships. Yes I have dated a few guys, but really my favourite times were hanging with E and the Dobermans, K and her kitty, N and her son or talking with K about her upcoming wedding in the Dominican (which FYI I am SUPER excited about). I have also refreshed some friendships – NYU girl, my neighbour best friend from childhood and M who is my sushi boyfriend!
All of these people have helped me get through 2011 with only a few battle scars. I am looking forward to 2012 for many reasons: the trip, more time with friends, becoming debt free etc. However 2012 will also have its share of challenges: a possible strike or lockout for me and the rest of the City workers, selling my nana’s house etc etc. I will be calling on the above to help me through those tough times, but also to help me celebrate the great times ahead!
Another thing 2012 will bring is a reconciliation between me and the “ex”. I don’t necessarily mean as a boyfriend, but as a friend for sure. We have already spent the past month talking and spending time together, rehashing 2011 to get to a pretty good place. There were a lot of false assumptions on my part that were made and that I now have to deal with. However, as much as we have talked about a possible future, he has a lot to deal with right now and admittedly can not give me what I need in a relationship so I am not going to go there. No more one step forward two steps back for me this year. I am moving forward only; if or when he is ever ready to do that we will talk, but for now, I am grateful to have my friend back.
I hope you all have a wonderful week!