So I received a few comments…

…by blog, Facebook, text and phone calls and I am keeping my blog the way it is.  I love me and I love the majority of you who actually take the time to read it so why would I change it and risk losing you for a few people who in the grand scheme of things have NO control or say over my life!  So feel free to hate, love or loathe me!  But you are getting me – all of me!  Take it or leave it!


And I really do take a pill for that – a chill pill or crazy pill as I like to call it…so here I go!

This weekend I have new furniture being delivered courtesy of the Brick (and my super generous father).  My gf NYC girl is moving into her own apt and had no furniture – well I was planning on buying new furniture anyway for when I move into the bsmt so I decided to give her all of my bedroom furniture.  I paid for the bed, dresser, end tables, mirror, lounge, mattress and box spring – and then the Brick called the other day to say it wouldn’t be delivered because they had no stock left.  HAHAHAHA is it April Fools Day and no one told me?? 

Needless to say I tore the ear off the poor CSR on the phone because I PAID for this furniture, was assured it was in stock and would be delivered June 2nd.  I kindly advised her if it wasn’t delivered on JUNE 2ND then I would go to the Brick, sleep there until it was.  We argued back and forth and finally she assured me at least the bed and mattress/box spring would be delivered.  SIGH.  Now of course when I call them today to confirm – I expect them to say “nope not in stock” and I will have to rip into another poor underpaid CSR, but seriously…if you pay for something shouldn’t they hold it for you and not sell it to the next person who walks in??  I hate the Brick – this has been the worst experience ever for me (I’ve always had amazing service from them before and from everywhere else I have ever bought something).

However the whole point of this story – was that I had a dream last night.  My two nieces and I went to the Brick for our sleepover and Newbie and his sister-in-law was there.  The five of us spent the night like Goldilocks, trying out different mattresses, couches, pillows and tv’s.  It was a blast.  I was having so much fun with the four of them I was sad when my alarm woke me up.  I was jumping on a mattress that was “to hard” and throwing pillows at Newbie who was playing Marco Polo with R, my oldest niece.  Yes I think a sleepover at the Brick is just what the Dr. ordered!!  Here I come!!

XOXO Nikilee

P.S Do you think the pizza delivery company will deliver there for us???

Where have you been!!!???

Oh right it was me who disappeared.  Sorry – had surgery.  Got an infection.  Was in a lot of pain for a little over a week.  Had three weeks off work.  Didn’t do much of anything except eat the mounds of junk food my friends bought, made and brought me over the said three weeks!

But I am back!  Yay me! 

I have been thinking a lot over the past few weeks about what this blog was meant for and what it is going to end up turning into.  When I started it, I needed to vent.  GBF and I were in a bad place – a place I never in a million years expected us to be and I needed a place where I could write and express feelings and get out ideas because I lost my bff who I would normally tell everything to.  I have ALWAYS been an open book so I never minded telling the world (or my handful of readers) all about my life.  I am not a private person.  I didn’t care at the time who read what, where or when. 

However a lot has changed in a year and a half.   I know of at least three people who don’t like me, hate me even who stalk the blog.  Who read it and report on it with a vengeance.  It doesn’t really bother me that these people read it – that they find my life so interesting that they had to find it (okay one person I gave the link to because we USED to be friends or so I though), but the problem is, my writing, my openness has changed.  I no longer want to discuss details of my life because I know without a doubt I am being judged and criticized and while OF COURSE I am, after all I have an open blog – knowing people are judging and criticizing me outright is a lot different then strangers doing it behind my back.

So whats a blogger to do – ignore the naysayers??  Keep my diary-like blog going and to hell with any consequences??  Or do I change my blog??  Do I write only about books, movies, places, people, news that I have an opinion on?  I don’t know.  I guess only time will tell.  I don’t want to hurt anyone, but I don’t wanna hurt me either! 

I have a few blogs that I love reading, I do so on a fairly regular basis.  They are diary-like blogs and I love them for their openness and honesty.  I am not interested in much of the “other kinds of blogs”.  You’d think that would be my answer then – stick to me, “do me” as a friend once told me.  But if I do, there will be consequences – and I don’t know if I am quite ready for said consequences. 

For now, I’ll take it day by day.  See if anything interesting pops up…

I hope you all missed me, because those of you whom I love and those of you who have been nothing but supportive and read my blog – I have sure missed you!

XOXO Nikilee

Sometimes I am amazed at how much can be done in a weekend

It’s only two days and one evening.  I mean I don’t get home till after 5 on Friday, yet every weekend, this one being no exception, I complete so much and tend to enjoy myself no matter what I am doing!!!

Friday started a new ritual which will continue throughout summer. I picked up Newbie, took him home to get his clothes and baseball stuff and then we went straight to baseball.  Newbie plays with the Wolfpack which is a rec league team but they are good – really good.  They won both games Friday night and getting to know this new team was great!  Newbies Sister-in-law was there as her hubby also plays for Wolfpack.  It’s always a good time catching up with the girlfriends and seeing old friends again. 

After baseball. Newbie, his dad and step-mom and me all went to Markham Station for dinner!  Of course we all ate breakfast because that is what you do at Markham Station!!  Home fries – I love you! 

Saturday was Biker Dude’s wake.  Newbie and I drove up to Bobcaygeon, spent some time with my mom, Aunt and the rest of our family and her friends and said goodbye to her husband.  It was a nice day and everyone whom my mom wanted there was there.  It is so gut-wrenching to see someone say goodbye to the person whom they love.  Spreading his ashes was a peaceful moment and I could tell that even though me and him were never close – his friends, family and wife will miss and love him dearly. 

Me, Mom, Brother, Sister-in-law and Aunt G

 We had to leave Bobcaygeon early because Chase (Newbies nephew) was celebrating his 2nd birthday!!!  Birthdays are so exciting!!  Especially when they are so young and they don’t fully comprehend whats going on, but are just so excited to have cake and get presents.  Of course since his mother insisted he needed socks – I bought him 39 pairs!  His favourite toy by far was the Little People’s School Bus – care of Newbie!  He loved it!  Getting to spend time with Chases mom and dad was great and seeing Newbies family is always a great thing.    For what started out a sad day – saying goodbye to family, turned into a lovely event – spending the evening with my chosen family – my friends! 

Chase playing with his new bus!!

Sunday I got busy!  I did laundry, groceries, cleaned my room, cleaned the bathroom, did dishes, took out the recycling, got gas for the car and a car wash since the Bobcaygeon bug population was decimated by my windshield and went to the dollar store for my mentee mothers day craft!  Oh ya and cause I wasn’t busy enough, I stopped by the bank and deposited a few cheques!  By the time Newbie came home from work, I was ready to sleep.  However we needed to eat, so after making dinner and lunch for today for us (and my dad), we played Cribbage with my new Cribbage board. 

Now, I played Crib years ago with my nana.  But that was YEARS ago.  Newbie re-taught me with my iPhone.  He is an awesome teacher, because our first game played together and I beat him!!  He wasn’t happy.  Men are such sore losers!  LOL…but I know he will win the next time we play cause he is actually MUCH more strategic than I am.  It just worked in my favour this game and I had a blast teasing him! 

Falling asleep last night was a peaceful experience, knowing I would wake up and only have two days of work this week – surgery is Wednesday – pray for me people please!!

I hope you are all having a lovely Monday!

XOXO Nikilee

The three types of men – from my limited, female perspective

I have heard it said that women are complicated, men – simple.  This may or may not be true.  I personally find men to be incredibly complicated to figure out at times because they are SO secretive, but I have determined that men fall into one of three categories: the financial/work man, the loving sports/women man and the gaming/computer man.  Now I believe all men, like all people, are plaid.  They enter in and out of all three categories depending on who they are with, whom they are talking to and what kind of day they have had.  However I generally feel – looking at the men in my life that they fall into one category that really defines them. 

The financial/work type:     I think everyone know this man.  He talks about how much money he has, how hard he works, he is constantly replying to emails on his smart phone and he is – in a sense – over worked.  Sushi boyfriend kinda falls into this category – only in the sense that he works – all the time.  He works all day and then he works evenings doing another job.  He talks about his projects he’s working on and he is constantly looking for new projects to hang on to.  I have to tell him over and over again – slow down, relax, enjoy your life.  But what I didn’t know was – the financial/worker type are enjoying their lives – they enjoy work *ewwww*.  I know quite a few men who fall into this category – because I just work to make money and while yes I do enjoy my job, I don’t want to work more than I already do – I doubt I could stand being with this type of man for long.  I have dated a man like this in the past and all we fought about – his working so many hours, not relaxing, not spending time together.  Nope – while this man has many amazing qualities to be admired, he can only be truly successful if he has a great work/life balance.  Sushi boyfriend has found a woman whom enjoys his extra curricular activities and she is AMAZING so it all works out!  He has created his own blance that works for him!

The loving sports/women man:  This man loves sports – like really loves sports – to play to watch and especially to talk about!  He is probably playing some kind of sport all year-long and he also probably watches a sport every night and on Friday night pub crawls with the guys (cause this guy also loves going to the bar with his boys) they watch a sport and then analyze it for the rest of the night.  They know stats, players, positions and numbers.  I kinda love this type.  He’s a mans man.  Athletes are hot in my opinion.  However, this type of man is also surrounded by beautiful women.  The waitresses at the bar, the women who love to watch games and when these types of men get together – they all of a sudden turn into a different person.  They talk about women like objects, they bash and ogle different types of women and bitch about the current woman/women in their lives.  Now, I don’t want to be burned on my blog, but really – this happens.  As a “guys girl” I have been to the pub where this happens and guys are not afraid of talking trash in front of a woman they don’t think of in a sexual nature.  I was just the friend for these men, so the bashing went on no matter how much mouth dropping I did and no matter how much swatting I threw at them.  This is when my love for an athlete turns sour.  Unfortunately, they tend to come hand in hand.  I have LOTS of guy friends that fall into this category.  And almost every man I know slips into this category on a regular basis *even when it’s not their main choice*. 

The gaming/computer man: AKA the nerd:  This man I have met before with old roommates, however because they were roommates and not men I wanted to date, I never analysed them before.  These men play games, video games, computer games, card games all the time.  They love computers and systems and probably own most if not all of the systems to have come out in the past 10-15 years.  They have an amazing computer with an upgraded hard drive and processor and can talk World of Warcraft and Super Mario Brothers all in one breath.  They like comics and comedy shows like Big Bang Theory and are very laid back and easy-going.  When a group of them converge together they talk games.  They throw out names and numbers that no other person who is not a gamer would EVER understand and they don’t understand why people – especially other men – wouldn’t want to be just like them.  Now my old roommates were this type of men.  They probably still are.  I haven’t met one since. 

 Until I met Newbie.  Newbie is a gamer.  At first I was worried – I mean I am NOT a gamer at all.  I own a Gamecube for my nieces and nephew to play when they visit – hence a bribe – but overall I could care less about games and the differences between Play Station and X-Box.  However, it has become quite amazing to see this handsome, intelligent man talk with his friends about all the HoN characters and strategies and when I thought about it – I realized, he is talking with men about games, he is not flirting with women at the bar, he is not drunk somewhere acting like a fool and because he still dips into the sports category often I think I have the best of both worlds!  Now I doubt I will EVER want to play X-Box or Play Station on my own, but maybe I will let him teach me a thing or two… 😉  I mean the couple that plays together stays together right?!

I know men and women alike are going to bash this blog – I am stereotyping and I hate stereotyping, but hence the title of this blog ” from my limited, female perspective”.  It’s okay if I am wrong, I am sure I am, but this is my blog and my perspective!  🙂  If I wrote from your perspective then it wouldn’t really by my blog would it?! 

XOXO Nikilee

I did it

I bought an iPhone *pausing for a stunned silence*


I cannot believe it sometimes.  I mean bbm was my bff!  I bought it last Thursday so I am just under a week with my new phone.  And trust me – she is pretty.  I do enjoy her, but I also miss my BB a LOT!

I am going to give you my pros and cons list in case you, like me, was/is contemplating a change:


Apps.  iPhone has THE best apps ever!  I have so many games and fun things to do I feel like this is a toy, not a phone.  I literally have re-taught myself how to play Cribbage!  My nana (miss you) and I used to play Crib all the time and I downloaded the Crib app and I play at least three-four times a day!  I have also been taught by Newbie and the Euchre app how to play that crazy game that still makes very little sense to me, but I understand the rules now at least! 

Fruit Ninja!  Where would I be in life without Fruit Ninja??!!  Well exactly where I am now actually, but without the anticipation of beating my score in FN!!  Thank you Apple for having wonderful apps.  I know I have only just begun to discover your lovely brilliance!

She is sleek.  She is long, white and I bought a teal covered skin cover for it!  She is pretty – just like me!!  Every time I look at my phone I think how nice it looks. 

The touch pad – I don’t hate it and I am genuinely shocked.  I thought I would hate it, but I don’t.  I am getting used to it and its nice to use the touch screen to slide in between pages and up and down pages. 

The camera – listen I know NOTHING about pixels or any of that camera techno mumbo gumbo, but I know what I like and I LIKE this camera.  This camera is WAY better than BB 100%.  The pics are larger thanks to a larger screen, and the quality is so much clearer.  Thank you again Apple for having this beautiful camera built-in.  I especially love that I can flip it so the camera part is facing me so I can take nice pics and see them while I am in them (does that even make sense)??.


Yes there are cons.  My number 1 con.  I miss bbm.  Of course this is it!  I have complained about iPhones since the beginning because I LOVE bbm.  Sushi boyfriend complains that he can’t see my crazy rants or pics on bbm anymore and he misses them (I do too, let’s do sushi so you can remember what I look like and I will rant all day!).  Now I worry my bff’s will talk about me over their status’ and I can’t defend myself anymore!!!

Facebook.  I hate the app for Facebook on iPhone.  BB’s app was much better organized and I had way more fun with Facebook on BB.  However I can live with this I guess.

The battery.  I hate the battery on iPhone.  It dies SO FAST!  I even have battery doctor app and it still dies in less than a day.  Okay I also play games – all day – but really – dying so fast is not cool in my books.  I had to go buy a car charger last night because it was dead and I wasn’t going to be home for 4 hours!!!  I can’t be phoneless for 4 hours. 

So there you have it folks.  I am a pretentious iPhone user now.  I abandoned my roots, took on apple and now I have to live with that decision for 3 years!  At least I am not a committmentphobe!  LOL…I like my phone, I am not in love yet like I was with BB, but I can see the love affair developing.  To all you BB users – think long and hard before you switch.  What can/can’t you live with in a phone.  The apps make it worth it to me because I love playing games! 

I hope you all have a wonderful day!

XOXO Nikilee