Being a single lady in a world of couples can sometimes be a strange and unsteady road, but when navigated carefully I find you can do it with class and better your relationships in the long run ~ Nikilee30
Okay so the other night I had this strange dream. Granted I have been sick for almost two weeks so I am taking all sorts of medicine and stuff. In this dream I was always with two people. These two people were a pair. Like Crazy Cat lady and her boyfriend. Kim and her husband. My two nieces. My friend N and her son. All these different scenes took place and I was always the third wheel.
Now I don’t know what this means – that I will never have a boyfriend or husband or child – (or sister, duh!) but in every situation I was completely comfortable and fit in where I needed to. I was a mediator, a counsellor, a babysitter and a friend. I don’t usually feel like a third wheel when I hang out with two people who clearly have the stronger relationship. I love my friends – married and unmarried and I love my friends children.
Spending time as a third wheel doesn’t make me feel pathetic or lonely or wanting for more. Would I love a boyfriend or husband I could argue with but kiss at the end of the night like Crazy Cat Lady and Kim – sure! But I don’t and I can’t sacrifice my sanity to go online and get one. The time will come when it’s right – and right now, it’s not. Do I want a child I can pass on my love and admiration to – OF COURSE! This more than anything, but right now is not the time and when I know the time is right – I will do what I have to do to have one.
I am blessed (as I have said on here numerous times) with amazing friends and family and I am fortunate enough that my friends like hanging out with me too and I am constantly a third wheel at many events and gatherings, but I don’t care because I have fun with everyone involved. Life is SO short, why spend it worrying about being alone, when I am constantly surrounded by loving friends who want to spend time with me!
This past week I have been off work – hence no blogging. I have been sick as a dog and miserable. I had GBF over a couple of times to keep me company as he is one of my few friends who doesn’t worry about catching germs (this man never gets sick) and as I started to feel better I was able to visit my friend E for her birthday and dog sit Cairo the Doberman with H.
I had lots of friends who texted me and kept me company in spirit. LOL…unfortunately, my father is now sick – and that is NOT good. He can’t get sick! He already takes like 30 pills a day. Sigh, how do you make the worlds most stubborn man healthy?? You leave him alone and let him deal with it. There really isn’t any other option!