A month changes a lot

A month ago today I was well into my second day in the Dominican Republic.  I was warm, content and looking forward to spending the week with my sister, one my favourite ladies, her entire family and soaking up some sun!

Unfortunately our first day in the DR it rained and was overcast.  You would think this would depress most people…but not me.  I was not at home, not at work and not taking care of anyone but me!  That night we went to the Coco Club – a place that would soon feel like a second home to me on my trip.  That was the beginning of the trip for me – and the beginning to a pretty amazing month.  Who knew dancing could be so much fun.  I mean I am not a dancer – at all – and usually am very self-conscious when dancing – especially when you have the bride – to – be in all her hotness dancing next to you, but I had a great time with a great friend and things really have never been the same since.  I can’t even hear LMFAO without smiling and cracking a giggle.  There is something so freeing about dancing with friends and family and just smiling honestly that really makes one enjoy themselves.

Walking along the beach after the club was another thing I normally would never do – though granted in TO if I walked along the beach at the end of January people would probably call the police thinking I must be intoxicated or have sever suicidal thoughts.  However in the Dominican it is quite normal – in fact there was a couple making love on the beach when we got there so of course the bride-to-be ridiculed them with ease!  They stopped eventually and left – we are suck party poopers!!!  LOL…I have never made love on the beach – maybe one day, but I think if I was going to, I would not do it just 20 feet from where the lights from the wedding stand shone brightly.  I mean really – I get the voyeurism, but that’s a bit much!  LOL…

The peace I gained in the DR from a very special friend and the confidence and loyalty I gained from that trip followed me home!  A lot has changed in my life mostly good, some not so good.  It’s been an emotional month, a lot of crying, a lot of laughter a lot of happiness and a lot of anxiety – however I would not change a single second of any of it, because it brought me home a completely new person.  Having amazing people in my life is not a new concept, I have at least a dozen – but having one particular new person in my life – has altered everything, made everything a little brighter, my stomach light needs his stomach light!  I can’t wait to tell you more!!

Have an amazing leap day my fellow bloggers and readers

XOXO Nikilee


Aww I am loved! (well at least liked)

Happy Valentines Day blogging friends and family!  The day where I want so badly to roll over in bed and throw the pillows over my head and groan about how much I like this boy or that boy (okay well maybe that’s going to far) is instead a day where I need to wake up at 6:00 am and get my ass ready for a day of work.  Because I don’t look good in red (I am way to pink to wear red) I threw on my favourite pink sweater and black khaki’s and headed out the door with minimal make up and my hair in a ponytail.  I mean – who am I impressing today??  The client’s who want me to create award-winning resumes for them??  The co-workers who are 90% female, 10% married or gay men??  I don’t think so. 

But then my bbm went off (I love you bbm) and a sweet friend of mine asked if I had plans tonight.  He figured as I am single, I would be available and  he wanted to take me out tonight.  As sweet as the thought was, I do have plans tonight.  I am going to see my bff for a few minutes and then go spend the rest of it with my dad who really, since I don’t actually have a Valentine – at least not one I will get to spend time with – is the next best choice. 

Then GBF wished me a happy Valentines day which also makes me feel great because he is slowly becoming that amazing friend I had so many years ago.  Of course driving into work, I heard songs I’d rather not hear and lots of announcements for lovey dovey stuff, but I managed to get into work fairly unscathed.  Really, I am not that much of a cynic regardless of how I sound now.

Once here I received two special Valentines Day treats from co-workers (a thing our Social Committee puts on every year).  See I am loved!!!  Actually it was from two of my favourite co-workers who make coming into work a pleasure not a pain.  Now I have chocolate to munch on throughout the day and I am going to spoil myself with sushi for lunch, because I have not had it since being back from DR and I need it. 

I hope you all have a special Valentines Day, I had hoped mine would be special, but since it won’t be special in the way I’d hoped, I’ll take what I can get…amazing day at work with chocolate and sushi and an evening with the bff and my dad!

XOXO Nikilee

Happy Birthday to the best dad I’ve ever met

Okay so he’s not perfect and if you had asked me 15 years ago, when I was a teenager I would have cursed his name many times over.  However my father, Edward Kenneth Milway is and always has been the best father I could have ever asked for.  He raised me when I needed a parent the most.  He was strict and mean and I hated his rules< but he loved me and he did the very best a single father can do.  I am the strong woman I am today because of him.  I will defend him and protect him everyday he walks this earth.  We’ve had a few close calls over the years, but God willing He has not taken my father from me.  I need my father still.  As much as I love and protect him, he does the same for me.  I am truly blessed to have him.

It’s the weekend again and it kills me to know it’s been a week since I’ve been back from the DR.  And of course, like all good Canadian winters, it snowed.  Mutha…okay no cussing.  I hate snow.  I mean, it can be great in the right setting, but compared to the warmth I had in the DR, it’s pretty much making me miserable.

I had weight watchers this morning,  my first time back since after my birthday.  I lost 4.5 pds!!!  Can you believe it??  I mean yes, I danced and walked my butt off in the DR, but I also drank my weight in vodka.  Looks like I got a great cardio workout 😉  Thank you!!!  Now another couple of pounds (2.5) and I can start rewarding myself.  A CD or two since my car stereo has been super depressing lately.  A new phone…blackberry or iphone (since I got back from the DR my phone has been on the fritz) hahaha…BLACKBERRY…hello I don’t like touch screens.  Either way, if I can lose the 2.5 I’ll be at a number I can count down by 5’s from.  Ya think I’m going name my weight…NAH!  Please wish me luck!!

After weight watchers, I was lucky enough to buy some yummy wine and have a fabulous lunch, one I won’t soon forget.  It’s been a long afternoon, one where I had a million things to think about and yet at the same time had nothing at all to think about.  Unfortunately I was unable to take my dad to dinner because my sister-in-law is ill so we had Swiss Chalet instead.  After a long draining day I am here…thinking of those of you who read my blog, wondering what you are doing?  Hoping you are all safe and happy.

I am watching Twilight Breaking Dawn on demand right now – maybe not the best thing since all I can think about is Robert Pattinson, but it’s also just what I need.  Right now it’s near the end where Bella has the baby and theirs blood and stuff…ewww.  LOL…I made it through all the lovey dovey stuff where Edward pours his heart out to the waiting Bella.  Yuck, she looks so skeletal…gross.

Okay anyway back to my weekend…tonight I will try to sleep and tomorrow I will go over to the bff’s house.  Lye on her couch and watch Dexter.  Wait to start a new work week all over again.

Happy Valentines weekend my friends

XOXO Nikilee

Pain in the (my) neck

Yesterday equalled me getting back to my real life, the trip is over, no more days off, back to REALITY.  I woke up to Bon Jovi’s “Living on a Prayer” which made me smile and laugh because it was one of the numerous songs in my head while I was in the DR.  Then I realized it was 6:00 am and I smashed the snooze button, the last thing I want at 6 am is DR memories on a day when I need to go work. 

After throwing the covers off at 6:30 I dressed up (had to go to Metro Hall for  a meeting, might as well look super cute) and ran out the door trying to get my GPS to grab a signal to show me how the hell to drive to metro hall.  You would think that having been there for meetings a couple of times a year I would know how to get there – and vaguely I do, however when I got to John St, my parking lot was gone and a construction crane was in its place.  DAMN IT.  Had to figure out a new place to park…after circling random streets I finally found a place and was still 45 minutes early. 

After the very, very “interesting” (gag, cough) meeting I had to get back to my actual job where everyone was waiting to hear all the details from my trip.  While leaving some good stuff out, I pleased everyone enough to open my emails and start seeing what I missed all week while I was sunning and swimming.  Nothing, I missed nothing.  I am not on strike, the renovations at work haven’t started, nothing good, cool or exciting happened while I was away.  To bad for them…lol

Last night I had one of my new therapy sessions.  It’s CBT therapy.  I figured I might as well go get a talking to.  I told the Dr. everything that’s been going on for the past couple of weeks and other than quitting smoking (and starting again and quitting again) he didn’t seem overjoyed (join the club Doc.).  But he did make me feel pretty good about some of my not so great choices so that was nice of him (can I get an AMEN)  LOL…

By the time I got home, my throat was so sore and raw from the strep (and talking all damn day) that I really couldn’t imagine talking anymore.  Thankfully Tuesday nights are Biggest Loser nights with daddy so I didn’t have to talk much.  Until my phone rang.  My best buddy at work has been a successful applicant for a new job and he is leaving Social Services 😦

All good things must come to an end…haven’t I said this before???  It really sucks.  I now am seriously considering my work options, job location options and future choices and how they will affect me and my life.  The only thing I have any control over right now is my work.  I am a single girl who lives at home, work is kinda all I got right now where I get to make all the decisions.  Of course once I heard what my buddy had to say, I only had one person I could call who would know how I feel.  I called the ex.  Instead of calling him the ex, because it’s really not how I feel about him now, I am going to call him GBF (I know some of you reading will get it and those of you who don’t – don’t worry it’s an inside joke). 

GBF and I have really worked at being friends again.  No relationship, no intense moments, just a genuine friendship.  We have both made huge mistakes in the past but we have found forgiveness in each other and the one thing me and GBF always had was a solid, understanding, loving friendship.  So I knew calling him last night would be the one thing that would make me feel better.  And he did.  He allowed me to see different options at work, different view points of different situations, and while I would have loved to have gotten his advice on other stuff…we aren’t quite there yet.  But he did calm me down enough to fall asleep, which I needed – desperately. 

How can a person like me who craves 9+ hours of sleep get NO sleep in the DR and function perfectly fine, but come back to TO and get 8 hours sleep and wanna die the next day…maybe my therapist can answer that…stay tuned. 

We’ve got to hold on to what we’ve got cause it doesn’t make a difference if we make it or not…

XOXO Nikilee

All good things must come to an end…

or do they?  Unfortunately in so many ways, for me this is true.  My week in the Dominican Republic (DR) is over, the memories made and the friendships that were started will always be with me, but the bliss that the DR brought to my life has come to an end and I am back to work, back to family and old friends and responsibilities.

A lot of  what happened in the DR will stay in the DR because I will respect everyone’s privacy, but I will tell you the up’s the downs and the good and the bad!  All I can say is the fact that it was one week only, this trip changed me as a person, and I want to truly thank every single person that came on this trip because I thoroughly enjoyed my time with each and every one of you!

The Ups’s:  being away on vacation!  I mean really, I was starting to lose my mind at work and feeling overwhelmed with responsibilities.  The fact that it was somewhere warm, with friends (old and new) was a huge bonus!  Another up was the fact that the plane left on time and there was no turbulence on the way there.  My sister and I got to sit next to each other by the emergency exit so we had no one sitting on either side of us.

The Down’s: I was looking forward to spending time on the beach – but the wind was LOCO (crazy for those of you whose Spanish isn’t up to snuff).  It was so windy on the beach it actually felt cold.   We had to spend a lot of time by the pool, which really was fine, but I love the feel of sand in between my toes.

The Good: The Majestic Colonial is a beautiful resort.  Lots of landscaping, greenery and our room was great (more on that later).  The signature drink “the Majestic” was my favourite and I think I drank my weight in them.  My absolutely favourite thing about my trip was chilling on the balcony and lying on the beach late at night (which surprisingly wasn’t as windy at that time) talking and drinking and relaxing.  Another good thing was my trip to see and swim with sharks and stingrays.  I am pretty sure the stingray purposely poked my butt (sans stinger) but it could have been the tour guide as well, I will never know!!  Swimming with these animals is a life experience, bucket list item that should not be missed!  The great thing was that I got to do this with my sister and the grooms mom and aunt.  The four of us had so much fun!  We swam, we danced (again, I met another Dominican tour guide who ended up dancing with me the whole time and staring at my boobs) and we laughed.  Can I please tell you – laughing is something I don’t do often, or at least haven’t done often lately, but on this trip I laughed whole heartedly every single day, numerous times!  My cheeks hurt!  Another good was the Disco (Donde es La Discotech??  Ya my Spanish got worse not better throughout the trip…lol…might have been the influx of Majestics I was drinking).  I am not a dancer, and dancing next to the bride all week who is a stunning girl and great dancer is enough to give anyone a complex, but again, I was having fun.  So I didn’t care!  The music was pretty good except they played some songs twice a night…who does that!!  At least I kept MY shirt on the whole time…the same cannot be said for everyone there!  There are so many goods, but like all resorts, there are some bads…

The bads: A lot of the people we went down with had MAJOR room problems.  My friend N and C had to get new key cards every single day because they kept disconnecting (and the walk from our room to front lobby is about 10-15 minutes) NOT COOL.  Another friend had NO shower door which was fine cause he roomed alone, but the maid walked in once…poor girl had no idea what she was walking into!  We all lost cold water or hot water at SOME point during the trip and our toilet in our room lost all water once *thankfully I complained and it was fixed immediately!*.  The bride and grooms little boy was sick and sad almost all week, but was REALLY sick on the Thursday at which point I also felt sick and now that I am home from the DR and have seen a Dr. realize I have strep throat!  Can you believe it!?  Ugh…a couple other people also seem to have it as well so I am blaming the baby!  LOL…

All is all the trip was great, I hate to let little things disappoint me, and there was enough great to out do the not-so-greats.  Plus I have the cutest turtle necklace which reminds me of my amazing trip.  I will post some pics soon enough (check the edits) and the whole reason for going down – the wedding, went off without a hitch!  Watching one of my favourite ladies get married to an amazing man made me smile, cry and laugh…all at the same time!  Congrats Kim, Jeff, Chase and the whole Bailey-Moore families!  I am so blessed to have met you all

XOXO Nikilee

Some of the best times that I ever had and ever shared it was just you and me sitting on the sand (okay I never sat on sand…ewwww)

Majestic Colonial Part 1

Today is my last day of work for over a week!  Let me tell you, the last week at work has been hell.  I feel like I’ve been fighting with everyone and I am not enjoying waking up to come to work like I normally do.  This is a problem.  However I am thinking, I hate winter, I have bum problems, I’m broke, there is an impending lockout/strike looming over our heads and I am feeling very claustrophobic in my room.  All of these things are making me a bit antsy and moody so I am hoping when I get a whole lotta vitamin D next week it will rejuvenate me for the rest of winter and get me through what I need to do for the next couple of months.

Now, on to the great news!  This time tomorrow (8:00am) I will be in an airport limo headed to Pearson airport!  WOOHOO!  I cannot wait.  I get to help one of my favourite friends celebrate her marriage to her wonderful husband AND I get some quality sister time which a girl needs every now and then.  I have completed packing and I know my aunt wants me to weigh this suitcase, but I just can’t.  It’s embarrassing how much I pack.  I just have issues with downsizing.  Especially cause of the wedding, I need make up and spanx to hold in the rolls, different shoes, a strapless bra and my dress!  So really it’s harder to pack!!!  I am not really buying a lot of souvenirs because if my sister wants to buy stuff for kids then I don’t need to.  I just get to buy stuff for ME which is my favourite person to shop for anyway cause I am so easy to please. 

I cannot wait to be at the Majestic, I will blog photo’s when I get back.  Until then, I hope you all have a safe wonderful week and please *follow* my blog so you can tell when I get back! 

XOXO Nikilee

Oh Buffalo Wild Wings has come to Canada!!

I am so happy I could cry, okay maybe not cry, but internally there is a lot of jumping for joy.  Here is my story: back in 2008 my friend Kat went to school in Moon Township P.A.  Me and the ex were friends with her and her bf at the time so we went and visited her there.  They took us out to dinner at this amazing wing place (Buffalo Wild Wings).  We got take out and ordered some sauces to go.  The wings were So. Freaken. Good.  We loved it there.  Every time we went to P.A to see her or to shop we would stop by BWW and grab wings and sauce! 

In Nov 2011 when I went with sister-in-law and crazy cat lady to Grove City for Black Friday Shopping, I took them to BWW and we ate in and ate so much food there was an embarrassing gas issue on the way back to the hotel.  (I know too much info – but really, the food is THAT good). 

Well last night, the ex finally had a day off work, and since I am leaving for the Dominican in 3 more days (YAY!) we decided to have dinner.  I told him to choose the restaurant cause really, I choose Makimono every time I am told to choose where to eat.  We drove and drove and drove and finally I realized we were in Oshawa.  What the heck does Oshawa have that Scarborough doesn’t??  A BUFFALO WILD WINGS!

I did NOT know this.  It’s pretty much exactly the same as the one I have tried in the states.  From the sports bar theme to the yellow and black uniforms to the wings in paper dishes.  Fantastic.  It’s located at 800 West King Street in Oshawa.  I mean it’s possible that Wild Wings is just as good, but I have never been there so I don’t know.  But I do enjoy Buffalo Wild Wings.  The service was great, our waitress was sweet (pretty blond wearing a breast cancer bracelet that said “I love Boobies”), and there was tonnes of tv’s playing the leafs game – we won, and a couple of different Basketball games.  I can totally see me there in the summer, on the patio eating wings and drinking margaritas (I don’t like beer – sorry). 

I hope you all have a great HUMP day!

XOXO Nikilee