All good things must come to an end…

or do they?  Unfortunately in so many ways, for me this is true.  My week in the Dominican Republic (DR) is over, the memories made and the friendships that were started will always be with me, but the bliss that the DR brought to my life has come to an end and I am back to work, back to family and old friends and responsibilities.

A lot of  what happened in the DR will stay in the DR because I will respect everyone’s privacy, but I will tell you the up’s the downs and the good and the bad!  All I can say is the fact that it was one week only, this trip changed me as a person, and I want to truly thank every single person that came on this trip because I thoroughly enjoyed my time with each and every one of you!

The Ups’s:  being away on vacation!  I mean really, I was starting to lose my mind at work and feeling overwhelmed with responsibilities.  The fact that it was somewhere warm, with friends (old and new) was a huge bonus!  Another up was the fact that the plane left on time and there was no turbulence on the way there.  My sister and I got to sit next to each other by the emergency exit so we had no one sitting on either side of us.

The Down’s: I was looking forward to spending time on the beach – but the wind was LOCO (crazy for those of you whose Spanish isn’t up to snuff).  It was so windy on the beach it actually felt cold.   We had to spend a lot of time by the pool, which really was fine, but I love the feel of sand in between my toes.

The Good: The Majestic Colonial is a beautiful resort.  Lots of landscaping, greenery and our room was great (more on that later).  The signature drink “the Majestic” was my favourite and I think I drank my weight in them.  My absolutely favourite thing about my trip was chilling on the balcony and lying on the beach late at night (which surprisingly wasn’t as windy at that time) talking and drinking and relaxing.  Another good thing was my trip to see and swim with sharks and stingrays.  I am pretty sure the stingray purposely poked my butt (sans stinger) but it could have been the tour guide as well, I will never know!!  Swimming with these animals is a life experience, bucket list item that should not be missed!  The great thing was that I got to do this with my sister and the grooms mom and aunt.  The four of us had so much fun!  We swam, we danced (again, I met another Dominican tour guide who ended up dancing with me the whole time and staring at my boobs) and we laughed.  Can I please tell you – laughing is something I don’t do often, or at least haven’t done often lately, but on this trip I laughed whole heartedly every single day, numerous times!  My cheeks hurt!  Another good was the Disco (Donde es La Discotech??  Ya my Spanish got worse not better throughout the trip…lol…might have been the influx of Majestics I was drinking).  I am not a dancer, and dancing next to the bride all week who is a stunning girl and great dancer is enough to give anyone a complex, but again, I was having fun.  So I didn’t care!  The music was pretty good except they played some songs twice a night…who does that!!  At least I kept MY shirt on the whole time…the same cannot be said for everyone there!  There are so many goods, but like all resorts, there are some bads…

The bads: A lot of the people we went down with had MAJOR room problems.  My friend N and C had to get new key cards every single day because they kept disconnecting (and the walk from our room to front lobby is about 10-15 minutes) NOT COOL.  Another friend had NO shower door which was fine cause he roomed alone, but the maid walked in once…poor girl had no idea what she was walking into!  We all lost cold water or hot water at SOME point during the trip and our toilet in our room lost all water once *thankfully I complained and it was fixed immediately!*.  The bride and grooms little boy was sick and sad almost all week, but was REALLY sick on the Thursday at which point I also felt sick and now that I am home from the DR and have seen a Dr. realize I have strep throat!  Can you believe it!?  Ugh…a couple other people also seem to have it as well so I am blaming the baby!  LOL…

All is all the trip was great, I hate to let little things disappoint me, and there was enough great to out do the not-so-greats.  Plus I have the cutest turtle necklace which reminds me of my amazing trip.  I will post some pics soon enough (check the edits) and the whole reason for going down – the wedding, went off without a hitch!  Watching one of my favourite ladies get married to an amazing man made me smile, cry and laugh…all at the same time!  Congrats Kim, Jeff, Chase and the whole Bailey-Moore families!  I am so blessed to have met you all

XOXO Nikilee

Some of the best times that I ever had and ever shared it was just you and me sitting on the sand (okay I never sat on sand…ewwww)

Majestic Colonial Part 1

Today is my last day of work for over a week!  Let me tell you, the last week at work has been hell.  I feel like I’ve been fighting with everyone and I am not enjoying waking up to come to work like I normally do.  This is a problem.  However I am thinking, I hate winter, I have bum problems, I’m broke, there is an impending lockout/strike looming over our heads and I am feeling very claustrophobic in my room.  All of these things are making me a bit antsy and moody so I am hoping when I get a whole lotta vitamin D next week it will rejuvenate me for the rest of winter and get me through what I need to do for the next couple of months.

Now, on to the great news!  This time tomorrow (8:00am) I will be in an airport limo headed to Pearson airport!  WOOHOO!  I cannot wait.  I get to help one of my favourite friends celebrate her marriage to her wonderful husband AND I get some quality sister time which a girl needs every now and then.  I have completed packing and I know my aunt wants me to weigh this suitcase, but I just can’t.  It’s embarrassing how much I pack.  I just have issues with downsizing.  Especially cause of the wedding, I need make up and spanx to hold in the rolls, different shoes, a strapless bra and my dress!  So really it’s harder to pack!!!  I am not really buying a lot of souvenirs because if my sister wants to buy stuff for kids then I don’t need to.  I just get to buy stuff for ME which is my favourite person to shop for anyway cause I am so easy to please. 

I cannot wait to be at the Majestic, I will blog photo’s when I get back.  Until then, I hope you all have a safe wonderful week and please *follow* my blog so you can tell when I get back! 

XOXO Nikilee

Oh Buffalo Wild Wings has come to Canada!!

I am so happy I could cry, okay maybe not cry, but internally there is a lot of jumping for joy.  Here is my story: back in 2008 my friend Kat went to school in Moon Township P.A.  Me and the ex were friends with her and her bf at the time so we went and visited her there.  They took us out to dinner at this amazing wing place (Buffalo Wild Wings).  We got take out and ordered some sauces to go.  The wings were So. Freaken. Good.  We loved it there.  Every time we went to P.A to see her or to shop we would stop by BWW and grab wings and sauce! 

In Nov 2011 when I went with sister-in-law and crazy cat lady to Grove City for Black Friday Shopping, I took them to BWW and we ate in and ate so much food there was an embarrassing gas issue on the way back to the hotel.  (I know too much info – but really, the food is THAT good). 

Well last night, the ex finally had a day off work, and since I am leaving for the Dominican in 3 more days (YAY!) we decided to have dinner.  I told him to choose the restaurant cause really, I choose Makimono every time I am told to choose where to eat.  We drove and drove and drove and finally I realized we were in Oshawa.  What the heck does Oshawa have that Scarborough doesn’t??  A BUFFALO WILD WINGS!

I did NOT know this.  It’s pretty much exactly the same as the one I have tried in the states.  From the sports bar theme to the yellow and black uniforms to the wings in paper dishes.  Fantastic.  It’s located at 800 West King Street in Oshawa.  I mean it’s possible that Wild Wings is just as good, but I have never been there so I don’t know.  But I do enjoy Buffalo Wild Wings.  The service was great, our waitress was sweet (pretty blond wearing a breast cancer bracelet that said “I love Boobies”), and there was tonnes of tv’s playing the leafs game – we won, and a couple of different Basketball games.  I can totally see me there in the summer, on the patio eating wings and drinking margaritas (I don’t like beer – sorry). 

I hope you all have a great HUMP day!

XOXO Nikilee

My top 5 dating rules

As a single girl in a coupled world I have become very confused and turned off by all the rules of dating.  I am not dating anyone and if all this confusion keeps up, I don’t know if I ever will!  Everyone has a tonne of advice (especially married men and women) and most of the advice is contradictory to other advice given (make the man pay, go dutch, whoever asks pays) AHHHHH!  I have decided to come up with own rules for dating and these are mainly because I believe in them firmly and if a man is not cool with these rules, then he is not the right man for me!

1. The man will take me out to  a meal for our first date OR plan a fun activity.  A coffee date will not do.  If you do not think I am worth a meal or an activity that takes longer then 20 minutes, then you are not worth my time and we should get to know each other over phone, email, text before we decide to hang out.  This is not because I am a gold digger or want a free meal, I can afford my own food I just truly believe that I am worth it, I am a nice person, a fun girl and have a lot to offer so really…I am worth a dinner!  I had a guy take me to coffee on a first date three times last year, after I finished my coffee (and I drink fast) I figured it was time to go because that was the only plan.  Coffee just doesn’t work as a real first date.  No time to get to know someone.

2. No games, if you say you are going to call/text/email do it.  Don’t make me chase you because I wont.  If you are going to be late please call and tell me this, because there is nothing worse in my eyes then lateness!  I dated a guy who was late for my fathers birthday dinner!!!  You all know how much I love my father – guess how happy I was that night?!  And if you have to cancel a date, then a phone call – not a text – is needed.  If it has to be a text then a follow-up phone call is appreciated.

3. I will not be giving up the cookie easily – you are going to have to earn it.  My goal is not to sleep with as many men as possible, but to find the right man, “the man”.  One of those famous coffee dates I had, the guy kissed me (which I was cool with) and tried to feel me up (which I was SO NOT COOL WITH).  Really you buy me a coffee, have a 20 minute conversation with me and you think you can touch me where ever you feel…LOL…no.   I will not fall for any come on lines or sweetness…if you want the cookie, then be my friend, date me, care for me, take care of me, show me you are honest and loyal and then…

4. Introduce me to your family and your friends after we have decided we are in a relationship. A guy I dated in the fall wanted me to meet his mom a week after our first date.  no.  I am a family oriented person and my girlfriends mean the world to me, but they are not going to meet you until we have decided this is going to be something.  I would hope your family and friends are just as important to you!

5.  I am not the easiest person to deal with all the time. I have a lot of responsibility and I can get grouchy and whiny just like any other person does.  But I am also kind, caring, hard-working, loyal, honest and the best friend/partner you could find.  I know this about myself and if  a real man arrives who also meets the above adjectives then maybe magic could happen!  LOL…okay I get it – that sounds totally corny!  I am corny though so it’s all good!

XOXO Nikilee

The next 12 days can not come fast enough

In 12 days I will be leaving the cold and the snow for a fun-filled week in Punta Cana, Dominican Republic.  We are staying at the Majestic Colonial which everyone I have talked to and has been said I will LOVE it!

I mean really – if it’s warm dry and there is food and “beverages” why wouldn’t I like it.  I am in Toronto where it is cold, wet and I have to cook my own food and if I drink at noon people question my sanity.  Sigh, it’s just better in the Caribbean. 

I still have to pack though.  This is where my issue comes in.  I over pack.  By a lot.  I know all I need it a bathing suit, a dress, a tank top and shorts but I pack three bathing suits, 4 capris, 6 tank tops, 4 dresses…you get the idea.  I won’t even go into how many shoes I bring! I need to figure stuff out.  When I went to the BahamasI had to put stuff in my girlfriends bag so I wouldn’t be charged to board the plane home.  I. AM. INSANE. 

Doesn’t that look nice!  I cannot wait for some palm trees and swim up bars! 

this weekend!  She gave us beach bags and flip-flops with our names on them and towels with her and her hubbies initials on them!  So cute!!!  I love it!  We ate at Portley Piper in Ajax.  I had the chicken avocado sandwich and I still can’t get over how much I love avocado!  I hope they have them in the DR!!

Have a great week everyone…the count down is on…

XOXO Nikilee

They say who you spend New Years with…

…is who you will spend the rest of the year with.  Well in this case, for me, it was true.

I spent New Years Eve 2011 with two of my very best girlfriends N and K.  I wasn’t in the mood to celebrate a year that ensured I would not be with the ex. However spending the night by myself seemed depressing and pathetic so me and my girls went over to a house party.  It was a great night, I remember most of it (napping with Kristi after throwing up wine was actually a key highlight) and am grateful that once again, my girls were there for me.

I have spent the majority of 2011 hanging out with girlfriends and developing my friendships.  Yes I have dated a few guys, but really my favourite times were hanging with E and the Dobermans, K and her kitty, N and her son or talking with K about her upcoming wedding in the Dominican (which FYI I am SUPER excited about).  I have also refreshed some friendships – NYU girl, my neighbour best friend from childhood and M who is my sushi boyfriend! 

All of these people have helped me get through 2011 with only a few battle scars.  I am looking forward to 2012 for many reasons: the trip, more time with friends, becoming debt free etc.  However 2012 will also have its share of challenges: a possible strike or lockout for me and the rest of the City workers, selling my nana’s house etc etc.  I will be calling on the above to help me through those tough times, but also to help me celebrate the great times ahead!

Another thing 2012 will bring is a reconciliation between me and the “ex”.  I don’t necessarily mean as a boyfriend, but as a friend for sure.  We have already spent the past month talking and spending time together, rehashing 2011 to get to a pretty good place.  There were a lot of false assumptions on my part that were made and that I now have to deal with.  However, as much as we have talked about a possible future, he has a lot to deal with right now and admittedly can not give me what I need in a relationship so I am not going to go there.  No more one step forward two steps back for me this year.  I am moving forward only; if or when he is ever ready to do that we will talk, but for now, I am grateful to have my friend back. 

I hope you all have a wonderful week!

XOXO Nikilee